The definition of enable is to help someone to do something. However, sometimes when we help we acutally just end up doing something for someone. Yes, we think we are helping. In actuality, we aren't really teaching them how to do it or empowering them to try with support. They never really feel like they can do it because it was done for them.
Can you describe a time in which you may have negatively enabled someone, even though you maybe meant to just help them.
For example, when someone is climbing and you use your body weight to lift them to reach back on to the wall vs. guiding them with words, tips, strategies and inspiration to do it for themselves.
Think about it.
1. Describe a time you negatively enabled or were enabled yourself in this way....
2. Describe a time you positively enabled someone or were empowered positively by someone else.
A time I negatively enabled someone was when my friend asked for my help on homework, but said I was too busy watching Tv. A time I positively enabled someone was when I helped my mom carry boxes when we were moving.
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DeleteOne time, I tried to help my friend with homework, but I kind of did one of the problems for them. I realized afterwards that that wasn't helping them because they probably didn't even understand the problem. One time, I was at dance and I didn't understand a combination. My friend went through it all with me, and eventually I got it!
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DeleteWhen I was doing my homework and my dad just showed me the answers without telling me how to do it.
ReplyDeleteRelated to my first answer is when my brother was struggling with math and I just told him the answers.
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DeleteWhenever I try and help this girl (not naming names), I always mean it in a positive way nut she takes it as negative and I never know why and always end up feeling negative.
ReplyDeleteWhen I am helping someone on homework, I try to give them tips so that they can do it themselves!
I positively enabled someone when I told them it was going to be okay while climbing the rockwall by telling them where to put their feet and hands.
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Deleteone time i was doing homework and someone needed help about a few problems, instead i ended up doing one of the problems for her. one time when i was at figure skating i didnt know how to go into a move, but my coach explained and i ended up getting it
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DeleteOne time I wanted to help something, but I ended up making it even worse. (It is always resolved at the end.)
ReplyDeleteI once positively enabled someone when I help them by getting stuff for them. (For cooking or projects)
A time I negatively enabled someone was when I trying to talk to my friend, but she took it the wrong way, and we ended up in a fight. A time I positively enabled someone was when I was giving helpful tips to someone, and they succeeded in the task they needed help on!
ReplyDeleteOne time I negatively enabled someone was that I was helping my 4th grade friend (not Zoe) with homework and I told her the answer.
ReplyDeleteA time that I positively enabled someone was helping them with MAPS and helping them with the problem solving by giving them a hint.
my Super hero's are my parents because the provide everything for me. They also go to ALMOST every event we need to go to at school and they help me every time i fall. my parents are the best super hero's!
ReplyDeleteOne time I was trying to tell a new company member in my ballet company on Opening Night (during the show) to go to their places, and she didn"t, so I ended up going without her. That was a negative enable because I gave up trying to get her attention.
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